When Depression Becomes Debilitating
So I don’t know if this is a good idea while driving. However, I think it will bring up some good points. Here’s something for you to think about. This morning I’m driving on my way to work. As you know, it’s something many of us do every day.
But, for people that are depressed, it can be so severe at times that it’s debilitating depression. By that I mean, just getting out of bed seems like an impossible task. Getting ready for work, getting in the car, driving. Those just become habits for some people. However, for someone that is really struggling with depression, those things could feel like impossible tasks.
For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Dr. Jerry Grosso from Nsight Psychology & Addiction in Newport Beach, California. I’m talking to you today about depression. Specifically, how difficult it can get for some people.
It could kill motivation or kill concentration. For some it can have affect appetite and sleep. Others could be so distraught, they lose the ability to maintain focus.
There’s this misperception that we think people are just being lazy. Perhaps we just think they like to complain. But, think about it like this. If I had a cold right now or I had the flu really bad, there’s no way I’d be driving to work. And, no one would expect me to. Let’s say I’m nauseous, or I’m about to vomit, it wouldn’t make sense trying to drive. However, it’s no different than a person with depression. They’re continuing to struggle. It’s an effort and having severe depression is no different than having a very, very severe flu or fever.
The reason why I’m making this video is to help you be understanding of people that struggle. Be aware that it’s not something they want. Nobody wakes up in the morning and says, “Hey, I want to be depressed.” They’re fighting through it.
So, how can you provide support, encouragement? The different thing when you look at depression and let’s say the flu, it may be best if you’ve got the flu to sit in bed, let your body rest and so forth. While that’s appropriate with depression. You want to be able to work through it, not just avoid it.
A lot of times people will avoid feeling depressed by drinking, or using drugs, or engaging self-destructive behavior. It’s important to allow yourself to actually feel. Learn to know what it is, that’s bothering you. Maybe there is something you need to resolve?
But, the hard thing is that, you have to force yourself to move. It’s kind of a weird thing that expending energy will help create energy. It’s going to take effort to get out of bed. Additionally, it’s going to take effort to get ready and take a shower to get yourself out of the house. But, honestly, that’s the best thing that you can do. You hear all the time exercise is important. That’s because the more energy you expend the more you’re going to get. It’s just the way it works.
Medications When Depression Becomes Debilitating
People might also say, “Well why don’t you take medication?” You can take medication for the flu and you’ll get better so you can function. The same can be true with depression. Similarly, if you take a cold remedy it doesn’t necessarily get rid of the cold. It gets rid of the symptoms so you can function.
I’m not a psychiatrist so we’ll leave the expertise to them. But try not to have too high of an expectation when it comes to medication. Anti-depressants aren’t magic pills. You’re not going to take them and all of a sudden your mood is going to be happy and everything in your life is suddenly great. The hope is that, at the least, it helps you go through the motions. Meaning, I can get up and I can get dressed. Therefore, I may be able to get in my car and drive to work. Hopefully, I can complete a day’s work.
Sometimes the misconception, “Oh the medication doesn’t work.” The medication may be working but the expectation might be too high of what to expect for it.
So again, to those suffering from depression, I want to recognize that it’s a very difficult thing. There are people out there that understand. Psychotherapy can be extremely beneficial to help you resolve why it is that you’re feeling a certain way. Also, to then transition into personal growth. Remember, expending energy will create energy. So I’ve gotta get out there and force myself to do things. That’s how I’m going to get better.
For those you struggling we do understand. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a professional. If you have any questions for me you can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Give this video a like this video a like, let us know, and share it with other people. If you don’t like it send comments. I’d be happy to address your thoughts and any concerns what you might have let’s say in your life or in a loved one’s life.
Until next time, I’ll put out other videos for you all, talking about therapy how it works, how to overcome emotional distress, and really work on emotional health so you can thrive and enjoy your life. So until next time, Dr. Jerry Grosso Nsight Psychology & Addiction. You guys have a terrific day.
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