When Depression Becomes Debilitating
So I don’t know if this is a good idea but I think it’ll bring up some good points. Something for you to think about, so this morning I’m driving on my way to work, something we do pretty much every day, it’s habit, we all do it. But for people that are depressed it can be so severe at times that it’s debilitating, meaning that just getting out of bed seems like an undo able task. Getting ready for work, getting in the car, driving, habit for everybody but for someone that is really struggling with depression it’s one of those things like there’s no way I can do it.
So for those of you who don’t know me I’m Dr. Jerry Grosso from Nsight Psychology and Addiction in Newport Beach, California. Talking to you today about depression and how difficult it can get for people. It could kill motivation, it could kill concentration, it hurts appetite, it hurts sleep. People could be so distraught about certain things they just can’t focus at all. There’s this misperception that we think people are just being lazy or they’re complaining and so forth, but think about it like this. If I had a cold right now or I had the flu really bad there’s no way I’d be driving to work and no one would expect me to. If I’m nauseous I’m about to vomit it wouldn’t make sense me being in my car, but think about it, no different people with depression. They’re continuing to struggle, it’s an effort and having severe depression is no different than having a very, very severe flu and fever.
So the reason why I’m making this video and talking to you about it is to be understanding of people that struggle, be aware that it’s not something they want, nobody wakes up in the morning and says, “Hey, I want to be depressed.” They’re fighting through it. And look at it in a way, how can you provide support, encouragement? The different thing when you look at depression and let’s say the flu, it may be best if you’ve got the flu to sit in bed, let your body rest and so forth. While that’s appropriate with depression for a while you want to be able to work through what the mood is not just kind of avoid it.
A lot of times people will avoid feeling depressed by drinking, or using drugs, or engaging sometimes in self destructive activities or distractions, it’s important to allow yourself to actually feel, to know what it is, to kind of get an idea, “Okay why do I feel this way? What’s bothering me? What do I need to resolve?” But the hard thing is and here I’m talking to people that are depressed, you have to force yourself to move and it’s kind of a weird thing that energy will create energy. So it’s going to take effort to get out of bed, it’s going to take effort to get ready and take a shower, and get yourself out of the house, but honestly that’s the best thing that you can do. You hear all the time exercise is important, it’s because the more energy you expend the more you’re going to get, it’s just the way it works.
I’m also going to say people say, “Well why don’t you take medication?” You can take medication for the flu you get better, you can function, it’s true with depression as well. The difference is, or maybe it’s a similarity, if you take a cold remedy it doesn’t necessarily get rid of the cold it gets rid of the symptoms so you can function. And I’m not a psychiatrist so we’ll leave the expertise to them, but think about that not having too high of expectations when it comes to medication. Anti-depressants aren’t magic pills. You’re not going to take them and all of a sudden your mood is going to be happy and things are going to be great in your life. Maybe at best it helps you go through the motions, which means I can get up, I can get dressed, I can get in my car and drive to work. I complete a days work, I expel that energy, which then helps me create more energy and build more energy.
Sometimes the misconception, “Oh the medication doesn’t work.” The medication may be working but the expectation might be too high of what to expect for it.
So again, to those suffering from depression it’s a very difficult thing. There are people out there that understand. Psychotherapy can be extremely beneficial to help you resolve why it is that you’re feeling a certain way, and also then transition into personal growth. Remember, energy will create energy. So I’ve gotta get out there, I’ve gotta force myself to do things and that’s how I’m going to get better.
So for those you struggling we do understand. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a professional. If you have any questions for me you can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org that’s email@example.com. If you like this video let us know, share it with other people. If you don’t like it send comments, I’d be happy to address your thoughts and any concerns what you might have let’s say in your life or in a loved one’s life.
Until next time, I’ll put out other videos for you guys, talking about therapy how it works, how to overcome emotional distress, and really work on emotional health so you can thrive and enjoy your life. So until next time, Dr. Jerry Grosso Nsight Psychology and Addiction. You guys have a terrific day.