Recognize how everyday situations are experienced and managed including arrival times for work, deadlines, child care, family conflict, traffic, long lines, etc. Major life events that are stressful include death of a spouse or family member, marital separation, divorce, legal problems, and financial setbacks. Increased awareness of thoughts and feelings toward life events can allow one to quickly adjust from over reaction to solution focused problem solving. Problematic everyday situations need to be addressed if they are causing your body stress and anxiety. Making adjustments in our day and breaking the worry habit can change our lives.
Dr. Pazak suggests that there are many things that can be done on a daily basis to manage stress:
Daily exercise will allow you to handle situations more effectively
Keep a sense of humor.Laugh out loud more often.
Remember, Whatever is causing you stress, it is just a problem with a solution
Take a bath or warm shower
Listen to relaxation tapes daily
Learn to problem solve instead of react
Forgive yourself and others.Things do not always have to go as planned!
Repeat positive self-statements
Imagine soothing, restful images
Take slow deep breaths in through the nose and as you release, let all your feelings of anxiety go.
Take a time out to clear your mind
Avoid comparing yourself with others
Relinquish your job of running the world!We cannot control people, places and situations.Go with the flow of life!
Worry is a strong habit for many and people think it is a permanent part of their personality that cannot be changed. Anxiety can be changed and overcome! Remember that spiritual connections are a great resource when anxious feelings appear response to situations. Through successful management of our reactions to stress, worry and anxiety, we are able to devote more time and energy to other things, like goals and dreams. As feelings of anxiety are addressed, relaxation and enjoyment can be experienced. Your mind will be open to new ideas, visions and goals. Overall health will improve as worry and anxiety is overcome. Digestion will improve, you may have fewer headaches, and other physical symptoms will disappear.
If you have excessive feelings of anxiety, please seek professional help. It is worth the effort to overcome these difficulties and address the problem. Remember “Let go and let God”, “This too shall pass” and at the end of every storm the sun always shines again!
Dr. Susan Pazak, PhD is a licensed psychologist and consulting professional at NSIGHT Psychology and Addiction in Newport Beach, California.