Emotional Pressure & Personal Growth
Emotional pressure is considered by most to be something negative due to the experience of distress and pain. No reasonable person would propose the pursuit of stress as something beneficial. Yet some suggest pressure created by stressful situations is the foundation of growth. So why do so many see pain and struggle differently, why do some people embrace challenges when others avoid them?
There are mottos such as “pressure creates diamonds” and “pressure is a privilege” which is a alternative perspective to the presence of stress. If growth comes from struggle and we learn more from our mistakes than we do from successes maybe it is our approach to stress that determines the outcome.
As with most things, beliefs impact thoughts and will influence both feelings and behavior. This is the core of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the main factor in the treatment of mental health issues. Those exposed to traumatic events often become depressed, anxious and develop a tendency to avoid emotional pain which is understandable. When the avoidance of pain becomes routine it will produce more emotional distress. Emotional pressure and stress when directed toward a solution not only resolves the issue but creates a foundation of growth from pain.
To overcome emotional distress associated with trauma, depression and anxiety one must make a cognitive shift from avoidance to resolution. The following steps may be useful in mastering pressure and stress.
- Acknowledge the feelings don’t avoid them. Acceptance will allow you to find the source of the distress so you can make sense of it.
- Identify the source of the stress, ask yourself, “What is my role in this situation?” Recognition of your role in the situation will allow you to find a way out.
- Take action, a proactive approach using pressure and stress as motivation can propel you forward away from the stressful situation.
If you or someone you know is suffering from mental health issues, please call us at 949-629-3730.
Gerald J. Grosso, PsyD, LMFT
Nsight Psychology & Addiction is a National Leader in Mental Health and Addiction Treatment