Addressing Emotional Distress
Last year at this time, I was on vacation, and I got the flu really bad. It was so bad I was out for 10 days, and it continued to drag on for several weeks after. I couldn’t believe how sick I was. The reason why I’m telling you that is we can understand when people are physically ill, and we’re like, “Wow, that was really terrible,” but when it comes to mental health issues, people are not so sensitive. They’re not aware that depression and anxiety are just like having the flu or a common cold. Now I’m going to say that there’s a part of it, it’s almost like traumatic to the extent I’m about to go on vacation again, and just thinking about it, I’m like, “My health, I got to make sure that I’m well. I don’t want to have any part of being sick because of how distressing it was.”
Then think about emotional distress when it comes to depression, anxiety. We’re so quick to dismiss it, but we all feel it. I’m going to tell you from experience, I’ve experienced a lot of depression, a lot of anxiety. I don’t think I’m any different than anybody else. The only thing that’s different is I’m going to acknowledge it. I’m going to say, “Yeah, I don’t feel so well.” Why am I telling you this? I’m Dr. Jerry Grosso from Nsight Psychology and Addiction in Newport Beach, California. I’m here to help you guys. I want to let you guys know that in order to overcome difficulties in life, and I’m going to say emotional distress, there’s a lot of things that cause us to be anxious, cause us to be sad, cause us to be depressed. Some events can be traumatic, and it’ll bring up stuff later. It may not be in the moment, it may happen after.
What I’m trying to get you guys to do is whether it’s you or somebody else, at least acknowledge, identify hey, this is what I feel. I may not know why, I just feel depressed today. I feel down, I feel like I’m in a rut. I want you to be able to acknowledge it. I want you to identify it. I want you to be able to acknowledge it in order that we can do two other things. One is understand why is it that I’m feeling this way today? Once I understand like, gosh, I start to think about it, maybe I don’t know. I can at least get to a point of acceptance, like yeah, I am feeling down today, and I got to figure out a way to get out. That’s my third thing, is how do I resolve it? I got to be able to identify it. I got to acknowledge that it’s there. I’m depressed. Yeah, it is depressed. That is what I’m feeling today, or anxious, whatever it is. I have the flu. I have a cold. I got to understand, I wonder how. I wonder why I’m feeling this way.
Then I’ve got to be able to move towards okay, I understand it. I can accept this. Now it’s time for me to find a resolution. Maybe it’s rest. If it’s a physical thing, it’s medicine, it’s vitamins. If it’s a psychological thing, it’s an emotional thing. Maybe I need to look at specifically how it’s impacting me and so forth. Where am I going with this? At Nsight, we help people every day, hundreds of people throughout the year work through emotional issues, go from, and I’m going to say, different than physical health, like physical illness. People that struggle with mental illness, emotional distress, we help them every year, hundreds of people throughout the year. The reason why I’m talking about this, I had a conversation with someone the other day. They struggle with depression. They struggle with low self-esteem, and they use alcohol to self-medicate.
When it comes to getting treatment the conversation I had with them, they’re telling me, “For me to go pay to get treatment somewhere, I feel like that’s being selfish, that if I spend that kind of money on myself, I could be spending it on my family, I could take them on vacation. I could provide certain things for them, and so forth that would make them happy.” I looked at it, and I said this to that person, “What about an investment in yourself that helps you, that helps you become a better person, to feel better, to do better?” If you’re not doing well emotionally, it’s not just impacting you. It’s going to impact the people around you just like if you’re physically ill, and you’re unable to complete the things that you contribute within a household, and so forth, or just personality-wise in a relationship, if you’re not on your game, it does impact other people. I’m saying the same thing. When it comes to emotional stuff, if I’m not 100% present, maybe I’m feeling really down, I’m not even 50% present, it impacts my wife, it impacts my kids. It impacts other family members, it impacts friends, maybe co-workers.
Coming back to this, do I make an investment in myself that actually benefits other people? The healthier I get, the better I feel, the more I can be present as a husband, as a significant other, as a father, as a sibling, as a friend, maybe even with my employer, that I’m present at work. I wasn’t surprised when I heard this from this person because so many people avoid. I don’t want to get into treatment. It’s a waste of money, or then I’m only thinking about myself. What I’m saying is I need to think about myself, so I can take care of other people. I’m hoping this makes sense to you guys. My intent here is really to de-mystify is not the right word, but it just seems there’s so many misconceptions when it comes to mental health, mental illness. Really, what we’re talking about is emotional distress we all experience.
Everybody at one time or another in their life, they’re going to be sad, they’re going to be depressed. They’re going to be anxious, fearful. They may be grieving. They’ve lost somebody or lost something. It could be a loss of a job, and so forth. When it gets to the point that it becomes dysfunctional, it starts to impair my relationships, it impairs my functioning, I got to do something about it. I’m talking about whether it’s you, a loved one, someone around you that you care about. Making an investment into yourself is really an investment into anybody else or everybody else around you. I’m just really trying to get you guys to be aware that one, there is help out there. There’s nothing negative about it. We all go through it, and most importantly, that things can be resolved. That’s all I’m going to say for now. I’m going to talk about this stuff in detail more. I’m hoping that I can continue to provide informative videos and information for you guys. I’d really like to see you be able to enjoy your life and not be hindered by things that we all experience and that we don’t want to talk about because we don’t feel like people will understand it or accept it.
Again, I’m Dr. Jerry Grosso from Nsight Psychology and Addiction in Newport Beach, California. If you like this video, please share it, please let us know. If you don’t like it, let me know as well. Send us an email. If you have specific questions or topics you would like me to address, send it to firstname.lastname@example.org. That’s nsightrecovery.com. There’s a lot of people that may not agree with me, and that’s fine. You don’t have to agree with me. Again, the more information that’s out there, the better decision you can make about where you want to go in your life, what you want to do, how you see issues that impact you, or a loved one, and how you want to overcome them. Until I see you guys next time, I hope you have a terrific day. Like I said, please give me your input, feedback, questions. Be more than happy to answer it. I’m Dr. Jerry Grosso, Nsight Psychology and Addiction. I’ll see you next time.
Dr. Gerald “Jerry” Grosso is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 20 years of experience assisting individuals and families struggling with addiction, depression and trauma. He obtained his Bachelors of Arts degree in Psychology from San Diego State University before enrolling in Chapman University where he acquired a Master of Arts degree in Psychology. Dr. Grosso continued his education and received a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology with a Specialty in treating Chemical Dependency. He holds a professional membership with the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT).